The shadow side of codependency is that we think everything “bad” is our fault. When his mood changes or shifts we immediately question what WE DID, even though is had nothing to do with us. If you grew up in environments where you weee responsible for other people’s feelings it makes sense why we end up carrying that same pattern into our romantic relationships. What no one tells us though is that this very pattern is what destroys most relationships because it alienates both partners. I dated